March, 2010 Issue No. 22


The Office Administrator of any parish is the Rector’s chief firewall. No business, including a church, can function without someone working behind the scenes, bringing a sharp eye and a level head to the countless minuscule, mundane details that simply cannot be ignored. To the honoured roll call of St. Mark’s, which includes Jackie Sorfleet, Mary Duncan, Joan Jersch, Joan Lindsay, Norma Mellon and Claudette Gravelle, we can now add a new name: Jennie Lee.

Jennie was a nurse out of the Greater Niagara School of Nursing, class of 1970, when she joined the Canadian Forces in 1976. Over the years her postings became increasingly more administrative. She worked in Ottawa, at the National Defence Medical Centre, at the CF Medical School in Borden and as Senior Nurse in Trenton, following which she returned to Ottawa to get her Bachelor of Science in Nursing Degree. She held various staff officer positions until her retirement from the Forces in 1999. She remained with the CF Medical Headquarters as a civilian for another ten years working in Regulatory Affairs.

Born and raised in Niagara Falls, Ontario, Jennie has spent enough time in Ottawa to call it home. One of her daughters is the Rev. Margo Whittaker, who was a student minister here at St. Mark’s. Margo’s twin sister is an engineer living in Kitchener, and her brother is a Military Physician currently posted to Kingston.

Jennie enjoys reading and is a past member of the Editors’ Association of Canada, but her editing these days is mostly limited to her eldest grandson's university papers. She attends Margo's parish of St. James, Leitrim, where she prepares the weekly bulletin, and sits on a couple of committees, including the Committee planning for the dedication of a new stained-glass window being installed in the spring.

Forty years ago the job of Office Administrator would have looked very different. Our first parish secretaries were volunteers, and their hours varied from three hours on three mornings to an almost full-length work week, depending upon need. Before the Office or Bishop Reed Hall were built, the Rector worked out of his study in the Rectory. The secretary’s space was a small desk near the church’s main entrance onto Fisher Ave., where the Peace Chapel is now. Her equipment? A manual typewriter, an original lumbering Gestetner for making multiple copies, and no phone at all. Now we provide our paid staff with a fax machine, no less than four computers, a laser-jet printer-photocopier, multiple-line phones and a wireless network.

New technology is exciting and useful… but it will never replace the generous spirit of precision and compassion that has always shone from the many occupants of this vital post.

Many of us will rarely meet Jennie, as our hours of work overlap hers. That’s a shame, really. But St. Mark’s has a gift for making people feel at home, and God has a way of sending people with exciting and especially appropriate talents. Here’s a big welcome to the newest member of our parish team!

Practical and timely matters…

A note about Holy Week and Easter Services
Between the Sunday of the Passion (Palm Sunday, March 28) and the Sunday of the Resurrection (Easter Day, April 4), there is a service at St Mark’s every day of Holy Week. This week reminds us of the mystery that lies at the core of our faith: the way of the Cross that leads through death to the fullness of life in Christ. The last three days (Maundy Thursday, Good Friday and Holy Saturday) are of particular importance. These liturgies are not only beautiful, but offer the opportunity to share with our Lord in his Passion and Resurrection. Please consider making an extra effort to attend one or all of these services, if for no other reason than to sing and hear the beautiful music led by St Mark’s excellent choir.

A note about contacting Parish clergy
We have a new phone system at St Mark’s, but how to get a hold of me hasn’t really changed much. All the same, I don’t know that I ever spelled it out in writing, so I hope this helps.

For matters that are not urgent, please call the Church Office (613-224-7431). If you call during office hours (Tuesday through Friday, 9 a.m. to 12 p.m.), your call will be answered by a real, live person if at all possible. Many afternoons I am still at the Church, or will return between pastoral visits and meetings, and I can either take your call or call you back right away. If no one is available to answer your call, follow the instructions “for the clergy” and leave a message. I will receive your message the next time I come in or call in.

To reach me right away, you have two options. In case of a pastoral emergency, it’s a good idea to try the Church first, especially during office hours. That way, Jennie can help track me down, or interrupt a meeting if the need is great. If you’re calling outside of office hours, dial “9” as per the instructions, and the phone system will forward your call to my cell phone and my home. If I happen to be out of town, I will have arranged for pastoral coverage from a trusted colleague, and you can reach them the same way (the phone system will be programmed to call them instead of me while I am away).

You may also call my cell phone directly. The number is 613-325-7967. Many people are reluctant to call this number, but no member of this parish should be. It doesn’t cost a lot of money, and if it means I get to talk to you sooner, as far as I’m concerned it’s worth it.

If you are in need of pastoral care, urgent or not, I would very much like you to let me know at the earliest opportunity, and I would very much like to come see you.

If you would like to discuss a matter of deep concern, doctrine or church policy, please arrange to see me in person. I will make every effort to clear my schedule if time is of the essence.

Email is both a blessing and presents certain challenges. When we really need to talk, or when time is of the essence, please consider calling rather than sending an email. You should assume I check my email once per day, usually in the morning, on days when I am in the office. I have been asked whether St Mark’s has a policy on email use similar to some other Church organizations, and while I’ve never had to consider this before, perhaps the time has arrived.

– Fr. Brian Kauk †


Good care depends on good communication. You play an important role in staying as healthy as possible. Often people are frustrated when they go to appointments. Their doctor is too rushed, or they don’t get all their questions answered. Take an active part in talking with your health professional.
Before Your Appointment
Bring all that you need, including: discharge summary if you have been in the hospital, health records, a list of your medications (prescription and non-prescription), etc.
Ask a family member or friend to accompany you. They can help by taking notes, asking questions and/or helping you remember what was said.
Take your glasses and/or hearing aid with a fresh battery, if you need them. Use them.
Write down your questions. It is easy to forget some of them once you get in the office.

During Your Visit
• Ask your most important questions first.
• Describe all problems clearly.
• Talk honestly about how you are feeling.
• Ask to have your medications reviewed.
• Ask questions. For example:
Tests and procedures:
- What is this test for?
- How long will it take to get results?
- How will I be notified of the results?
- What is this medication for?
- How and when do I take it?
- What effects and side effects can I expect from the medication?
- When should I call if I have side effects?
- What do I do when I finish the prescription?
- Do I stop taking other medications when I start taking this one?
- Do I take it with food?
- What does the diagnosis mean?
- What can I expect?
- What treatment might I need?

Other kinds of questions:
- What changes do I have to make?
- Are there community services that might help me?
• Take notes or ask for written information.

Speak up during the visit. For example:
- “Please speak more slowly and clearly.”
- “I don’t understand.”
- “Please give me more time to answer.”
• Discuss personal issues (such as grief, memory problems or incontinence) which may require attention.
• Ask for another appointment if you need more time.

After Your Appointment
• Review notes and information received.
• Phone your health care practitioner if you have further questions.
• Report changes or side effects to your health care practitioner.


- Patty Robillard  
  Parish Nurse


Rome was not built in a day. Neither was the Memorial sculpture to house the Dorothea Kirby memorial bells.  But, with unwavering determination, support from John, the Kirby family and friends, and the spirit of Dot ever present, the bells will soon be housed and displayed for all the world to see.

Dot was a chorister; therefore songs and choral music come to mind.

“Rejoice in the Lord alway,
and again I say Rejoice!”

(Purcell - Bell Anthem)

“Holy, holy, holy merciful and mighty!
God in Three Persons, blessed Trinity!”

(R Heber / J B Dykes) 

“For the Lord God Omnipotent reigneth.
Hallelujah! Hallelujah! Hallelujah! Hallelujah!”

(Handel - Messiah)

It has been a “long and winding road” (the Beatles) but we had faith.  The project was approved at Vestry 2010 - "Hallelujah!"

– Cynthia Greer & Margaret Lodge
Memorial Committee

from the TREASURER  

We are going into this year with a deficit budget.  So far, the signs have been encouraging.  At the end of February, our collections income is about $2,000 more than expected.  What can I say but – keep up the excellent work! If we can continue this trend until the end of the year, we may not end with a deficit this time.  The cautious side does point out that it is a long way until the end of 2010.

During Lent, we are continuing our program of Lenten Outreach.  The two projects which were chosen this year were Debra-Dynes Family House and Cornerstone.  Lenten Outreach envelopes are available at the back of the church, or your offering can be put in any envelope and marked as “Lenten Outreach” with your name or envelope number.

– Joy Bowerman

St Mark's Parish Lending Library

The Return of the Prodigal Son:
A story of Homecoming  by Henri J. M. Nouwen

Henri Nouwen’s discovery of Rembrandt’s painting of “The Return of the Prodigal Son” led him to a life-changing awareness of the compassionate love of God. He says, “Looking at the way in which Rembrandt portrays the father, there came to me a whole new interior understanding of tenderness, mercy and forgiveness. Seldom, if ever, has God’s immense, compassionate love been expressed in such a poignant way.” (p.93)

Nouwen’s reflections give us an opportunity to reflect on the almost incomprehensible love of God. As I read, I recalled the teachings of the Apostle Paul that we are inseparable from God (Romans 8:28). I remembered Nelson Mandela’s testimony that it is forgiveness that helped him leave behind the pain and imprisonment and live a healthy and fulfilling life. This is a great reading for Lent!

The late Henri J.M. Nouwen, author of more than thirty books, taught at the Universities of Notre Dame, Yale and Harvard. His writings are known to many as reliable and inspiring sources for spiritual reflection and learning. You will find this and other Nouwen titles in the “Spiritual Life” section of our Parish library.

– Betty Caughlin

(In “Spiritual Life” section: Out of Solitude; The Path of Peace; The Path of Power; With Open Hands; The Wounded Healer. In “Loss and Grief” section: In Memoriam.)

“Books are the ever burning lamps of accumulated wisdom.” – George William Curtis

Mark This Word

Any and all contributions are welcome. It is a great convenience to receive files electronically, but I shall willingly transcribe for people who do not have computer access. The best method for e-files is to save them in Rich Text Format (RTF) and email them to me.  Hard copy can be mailed or handed to me on Sundays at St Mark’s.

Next submission deadline:  May 16, 2010

- Sheila Vaudrey  Editor 


Two young people stood before the minister and the congregation as they were taking their marriage vows.

“Repeat after me,” the minister said to the young lady.  “For better, for worse.”

The young lady paused for a minute and then answered,  “Well, I don’t think he’s going to get any better, and I don’t see how he can be any worse, so maybe it’s best I just take him as he is.”

I mused on this, and thought about how God calls us as we are, and wants us to become His and His only.  He will look after the rest!  

– Marion Legault


I am a disciple of Jesus Christ.  

I’m part of the fellowship of the unashamed.  I have Holy Spirit Power.  The dye has been cast.  I have stepped over the line.  The decision has been made.  I’m a disciple of His.  I won’t look back, let up, slow down, back away or be still.

I am a disciple of Jesus Christ.

My past is redeemed; my present makes sense; my future is secure.  I’m finished and done with low living, small planning, smooth knees, colourless dreams, tamed visions, mundane talking, cheap giving and dwarfed goals.  

I am a disciple of Jesus Christ.

I no longer need pre-eminence, prosperity, position, promotions, plaudits or popularity.  I don’t have to be right, first, tops, recognised, praised, regarded or rewarded.  I now live by faith, lean on His presence, walk by patience, lift by prayer and labour by power.

I am a disciple of Jesus Christ.

My face is set, my gait is fast, my goal is Heaven, my road is narrow, my way is rough, my companions few, my Guide reliable, my mission clear.  I cannot be bought, compromised, detoured, lured away, turned back, deluded or delayed.  I will not flinch in the face of sacrifice, hesitate in the presence of the adversary, negotiate at the table of the enemy, ponder at the pool of popularity, or meander in the maze of mediocrity.

I am a disciple of Jesus Christ.  

I won’t give up, shut up, let up, until I have stayed up, stored up, prayed up, paid up, preached up for the cause of Christ.  I must go ‘til He comes, give ‘til I drop, preach ‘til all know, and work ‘til He stops me.  And when He comes for His own, He will have no problem recognising me – my banner will be clear… because


– Steve Farrar (presented at Synod 2006)

The Parish of St. Mark the Evangelist
Anglican Church of Canada

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